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August 17, 2024

Outercourse for Egalitarian Intimacy

When someone enthusiastically describes the deep connection they experience during penetrative sex, I totally understand why that type of intimacy is so powerful for them, and I can relate based on my own experiences. However, I find that the empathy and understanding are not always mutual. When I describe the deep intimacy I experience from outercourse, or non-penetrative sex, it […]

Anthony Non-Penetrative Sex 0 2 min read
May 31, 2024

Calamus: The Roots of Manly Love

Exploring the Roots The “Calamus” section in Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass is named after the calamus plant (Acorus calamus), also known as “sweet flag,” which grows in wetlands and is similar to a cat-tail. Many scholars and critics have noted that the floral spadix has a decidedly phallic appearance, but of greater significance to Whitman were the plant’s “pink-tinged […]

Anthony Whitmanism 1 24 min read
January 14, 2024

Topping & Bottoming WITHOUT Penetration!

Several years ago, I realized that I prefer non-penetrative sex. There are a few exceptions to this, and I do occasionally explore my boundaries in this area, but most of the time I have zero interest in penetration, especially anal. Many men find this baffling because they can’t fathom the concept of sex without penetration. Others scoff at non-penetrative sex […]

Anthony Non-Penetrative Sex 3 8 min read
June 6, 2023

Playing with Myself: Tetris

Welcome to the first entry in the “Playing With Myself” series, in which I review single-player games and toys that I enjoy. (I also can’t resist a masturbation pun.) I’ve been interested in writing game reviews for a while, and I thought it would be fun to do something a little different from my usual content. My interest in gaming […]

Anthony Playing With Myself 0 15 min read
June 3, 2023

The Boy Who Wanted to Be a Mermaid

I just got home from seeing the new live-action adaptation of The Little Mermaid on opening day (May 26). I invited a family member to join me, but they changed their mind and didn’t want to go, so I had a solo movie date. And I’m so glad I did, because it was absolutely wonderful. In the weeks leading up […]

Anthony The Queer Life 1 20 min read
May 31, 2023

Divine am I, Inside and Out

“Song of Myself” has long served as a sort of scripture for me, especially this particular section. I have quoted it many times all over social media. Whenever the demons of doubt cast their shadows on me, Whitman’s lyrical sermons have frequently offered me comfort and inspiration. Whitman viewed both the natural world and the human world with a sense […]

Anthony Whitmanism 0 5 min read
October 1, 2022

The Wisdom of the Phallic Fool

A few years ago, I planned on creating a video called “The Journey of the Fool’s Penis,” which was to be an exploration of the Fool’s Journey through the Jean Noblet Tarot. The video never came to fruition, but the idea—and that particular card—stuck with me. The Jean Noblet Tarot was published around 1650 and is usually considered the first […]

Anthony Magic & Occult 1 5 min read
June 8, 2022

Book Review: The Satyr’s Kiss by Storm Faerywolf

Happy Pride Month! Let’s celebrate with a book review! The Satyr’s Kiss: Queer Men, Sex Magic & Modern Witchcraft was released exactly one month ago, and I bought it as a birthday present for myself. I’ve been very excited about this book since its author, Storm Faerywolf, first announced it last year. A gay Witchcraft book that doesn’t shy away […]

Anthony Magic & Occult 1 5 min read

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